He remembers more then we think… 

He remembers more then we think… 

Today is Christmas. It’s been a lovely day, we were asked to get Bob earlier than every year before, it’s supposed to be midday but this year 10.30, she was going to see her friend, a known alcoholic friend so no surprises there.

Bob has a rash at the minute, it took him to the Dr’s a couple of days ago to get it checked, nothing to worry about thankfully.

As dad put Bob to bed, Bob said “My rash is going away dad, isn’t it” to which dad confirmed the good news. Bob then told his dad about how he remembered when his. Other used needles to get rid of a rash. Bob was  toddler when this happened and his dad ended up at the emergency doctors with him

Dad said he remembered and his mother shouldn’t have done that, it caused him a lot of pain and it was very bad thing to do to your child.

“I’m sure she did it for a good reason dad, probably made it go away quicker”

So he does remember, I wonder when I he’ll realise it wasn’t right…

Where to even start!

Where to even start!

We had a barage of missed calls last week from Bob’s mother. Phone was on silent so we didn’t know until morning.

Mother and her partner got into an argument about her drinking (again) and he beat seven bells out of her. She was telling Bob’s dad about this on the phone with Bob in the car, Bob wasn’t even fased about it. Apparently this wasn’t the first time.

She’s moving out. Today. Bob’s dad needed to help and also have Bob as she is now homeless and staying at her mothers.

Bob’s dad jumped at the chance to help and keep Bob safe.

Bob came to our house for 6 days. Not once did she text to ask how he was. Texted asking for help getting internet and help getting a deposit for a house rental, but not once did she ask for Bob.

Bob is scared of the phone because his mother says the (now) ex can track you through your phone. Do not forget that Bob is 9 and doesn’t need to know this and it’s easily rectified if you think that you’re being tracked.

So we drop Bob back at her mothers on the Sunday and it appared that he has a bed so we left him to spend some time with his mother. We were wrong, the proper single bed was for her. Bob is sleeping on the camp bed. Surely in anyone’s book that is the wrong way around…?

2 days later we picked him up for a pre arranged meal we were taking him to and offered him that he could stay over, She responded that was no problem, we could bring him back Thursday Friday, Saturday, hell, have him as long as we want. Bob’s dad said it’s up to Bob to decide.

We have a nice meal and say to Bob that we have a day trip planned, woudl he like to come along and he does. Fab. So the next day we take him out. During this time, Bob’s dad gets a call, she can’t stay in all day wating for him as she wants to (And to quote) “go out with her friends and talk about hard times and stuff” so keep him.


So his whole life has been turned up side down and going on another bender is the way to go.

But as she constantly messages us – Bob is her first priority.

Sure it is…

3rd holiday is a charm

3rd holiday is a charm

Bob was told by his mother that they’re going to Spain for her birthday. She then called Bob’s Dad to regail her relief at not having to endure another Nativity play and they’ll be away.

She then (Supposedly) booked the holiday.

I said from the outset that it wasn’t going to happen but as it got closer I began to think maybe I have it wrong this time.

A week before the holiday Bob’s dad gets a text from Bob to say they’re not going. Bob’s dad calls him – Mother has cancelled the holiday because the “School have moved the Nativity play onto the week they were away and Bob has a part – It’s the school’s fault”

Dad speaks to Mother and she tells him about how they’re strapped for cash and they’ve lost €200 cancelling the holiday but it’s the nativity play you know and, and, and… The usual BS we get.

We then get Bob on the Friday and she’s managed to convince Bob he chose to cancel the holiday in preference for the nativity and it’s his fault the holiday is cancelled and his mother has lost money. We’vce tried to explain that’s not true ans she knew the nativity was the same week before she booked but he’s having none of it. Poor kid.

She didn’t even bother to go to the Nativity in the end either. She had family to go and see.  He did a fabulous job with his part. She’s really missed out.