I spoke to to the teacher today, she really isn’t happy with Bob’s behaviour.
He’s barely doing any work and he’s generally disruptive…
Hardly surprising given his packed lunch.
For reference the sandwich is chocolate spread.
Additional: Bob’s dad had a chat with him – this is pretty much what he has for breakfast dinner and tea.
This can’t continue.
So Bob had his half term and I asked what he got up to.
They left the house once the entire week. She showed him her favorite new pub, took him to the local BB gun shop and that was it.
The rest of the week he spent chatting to ‘friends’ on WhatsApp.
One of these groups had 6 people in, only 2 were recognised contacts, the others were not known to him. He also chatted to people he did and didn’t know on Roblox. Free babysitters.
His mother has a new boyfriend so she’s permanently on the phone to him.
A week wasted.
He did like playing with his toys for a bit. And watching the film The Crow, which is an 18. He’s 9.
The weekend just gone we went out for dinner. It’s half term next week so I asked Bob what his plans were for the week.
“Probably nothing” was his response. The following conversation followed:
“Will your mum not take you anywhere?”
“Does she not take you places?”
“Will she make things with you?”
“What, like my dinner?”
“No, things with you – drawing, or crafts?”
“Does she play with you”
“So what does she do?”
“She replies to her emails on her phone, she gets a lot of emails”
“Really?, That’s all she does, all day every day?”
“Right… Has she bought any toys for you at your new house?”
“Is that not going to be a bit boring?”
“No, I can play on my laptop all day”
They’ve been there 4 weeks, she’s bought new furniture for the living areas, ordered the internet and painted the house, but not bought toys for her Son. In his room he has a bed, a wardrobe and 3 action figures.
So we went and spent £60 on toys for him. At least he has something else to do now – providing she doesn’t sell them, which is why he never wants to take toys from ours to his other house.
Bob and his mother have been in their new house for a week and a half, which means she has been there for the past 2 weekends.
When Bob was collected last weekend, She said she was meeting up with an old friend. A friend who was a well known alcoholic, Bob’s Dad remembered him well. It’s not our business what she gets up to in her spare time.
When Bob was collected this weekend, She mentioned he was visiting again – and again this is also not our business except that when we dropped Bob back off on Sunday – He was still there and he was still drunk <Edit – He stayed until Wednesday, long enough to paint the house for her, then she drove him home>. Bob was texting his dad at 21.45 – He still hadn’t gone to bed yet.
He’s going to really struggle with school.
We asked that she put more healthy food in his lunchbox. Here’s hoping she does.