We had a barage of missed calls last week from Bob’s mother. Phone was on silent so we didn’t know until morning.
Mother and her partner got into an argument about her drinking (again) and he beat seven bells out of her. She was telling Bob’s dad about this on the phone with Bob in the car, Bob wasn’t even fased about it. Apparently this wasn’t the first time.
She’s moving out. Today. Bob’s dad needed to help and also have Bob as she is now homeless and staying at her mothers.
Bob’s dad jumped at the chance to help and keep Bob safe.
Bob came to our house for 6 days. Not once did she text to ask how he was. Texted asking for help getting internet and help getting a deposit for a house rental, but not once did she ask for Bob.
Bob is scared of the phone because his mother says the (now) ex can track you through your phone. Do not forget that Bob is 9 and doesn’t need to know this and it’s easily rectified if you think that you’re being tracked.
So we drop Bob back at her mothers on the Sunday and it appared that he has a bed so we left him to spend some time with his mother. We were wrong, the proper single bed was for her. Bob is sleeping on the camp bed. Surely in anyone’s book that is the wrong way around…?
2 days later we picked him up for a pre arranged meal we were taking him to and offered him that he could stay over, She responded that was no problem, we could bring him back Thursday Friday, Saturday, hell, have him as long as we want. Bob’s dad said it’s up to Bob to decide.
We have a nice meal and say to Bob that we have a day trip planned, woudl he like to come along and he does. Fab. So the next day we take him out. During this time, Bob’s dad gets a call, she can’t stay in all day wating for him as she wants to (And to quote) “go out with her friends and talk about hard times and stuff” so keep him.
So his whole life has been turned up side down and going on another bender is the way to go.
But as she constantly messages us – Bob is her first priority.
Sure it is…